Disputings

What can I say "it's natural!" Well, that doesn't really make it easier or nice. Having to settle hard core disputes is often wanting to change another's feelings(heart) or/and mind. Quite the impossible! "You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." Marcus Aurelius Isn't that the crux of most disputes!
We all want to have the other one see it our way, feel it as profoundly as we do, want it as much and at times, defend it as wholeheartedly. Self-control isn't control at all, it's a nice way of biting our tongues, pretending or hiding behind some psycological term. The scriptures call it "self-mastery." i often feel that when I have a major dispute with my family, friends or anyone close to me like a flee, what I'm really trying to say is, "come on, be my allie. That's what most of us are looking for-- an allie, someone to back us up and say, "hey, I really get it!" But most of the time we rather set up our banner and demand another's attention and we think "if we don't stand up for ourselves than who will!" Right? Maybe if we try and establish that fact before we enter rolling, muddy waters we wouldn't need to dispute so often or as harshly.


"When thou art above measure angry, bethink thee how momentary is man's life." Marcus Aurelius